Each group can have up to 8 clients, and group membership is stable; after an initial period, new members are not admitted so members can grow in solidarity and safety with each other so that they can share their experiences and their stories.
I offer six-month groups for adults who think they have (or may have) experienced trauma during childhood and are considering any of the following questions:
• Even though I have difficult childhood memories, was it really that bad? In other words:
o Was it right how my parents treated me (what they did and/or did not do)?
o Was it right what they led me to believe about myself, about our family, and about how to interact in relationships?
• Did my childhood experience leave me with emotional and relational difficulties that have significant negative consequences in my present life?
• How can I gain awareness of how those present difficulties are linked to my childhood experience, and how can I create a recovery path, a process toward healing?
I offer long-term (about three years) groups for adults who have begun to explore their childhood, often in a six-month group, and have recognized evidence of two related experiences:
• During childhood, they were treated in ways that were not right, that did not meet their legitimate needs, and that as a result they developed core beliefs/assumptions and ways of coping that no longer serve them well.
• Currently, they have reactions to present situations that stem from those difficult childhood experiences and from the beliefs and coping strategies they learned as a result.
This group has two main goals for clients:
• to process childhood trauma by reparenting their wounded inner child, so they can finish business about the parents and the system they created.
• to reclaim intimacy, cultivating interpersonal relationship skills.
I offer couples groups, for when both individuals have begun to recognize that they often react to their partner from their wounded inner child.
• Couples grow in understanding childhood trauma and in reparenting their inner child.
• Couples practice a process for:
o owning it when they project their inner child’s upset onto the other
o increasing intimacy by supporting each other's inner child
o taking adult responsibility for negotiating the present situation with each other.